For my Introverted Brides and Grooms
In the most beautiful way, weddings are a lot, socially, financially, physically and emotionally. To all my beautiful introverted brides and grooms, I see you. This is a lot. I hope I am not the first to tell you, it is okay. You can be yourself at your own wedding, you can enjoy your wedding. With that being said, I have turned the corner countless times to find a bride or a groom or both just hiding out for a moment to catch their breath. This makes me happy and breaks my heart at the same time. Below are some of my thoughts for you beautiful people:
Getting ready mornings can be fairly overwhelming, your people are excited, lots of coming and going, questions, so many questions, “have you had water, have you had food, did you see so-and-so, did you get my gift...” Please know, your wedding morning can look very very different. I have written a blog on this very subject in the past, you can find it here. Create the morning you want. Walking, running, coffee, sleeping in, breakfast with your mom, coffee with your dad.
After the ceremony, take a moment. You have time, do not let anyone tell you differently. I found myself completely alone before for about 8 minutes before my ceremony where my family and wedding party had all lined up ready to go and I was in a back room in the church. Those were very special beautiful moments where I could clear my head and prepare myself to walk down the aisle.
Social hour can be overwhelming as there are a lot of people to chat with and maybe you are meeting some people for the first time, be at peace if you do not want to conversate. A simple and genuine “thank you so much for being here” with a smile is perfect.
Do not feel like you have to drink. Feel free to have a glass in your hand but it could be any number of things in there, water, coffee, red bull whatever you are comfortable with.
Dinner. Feel free to stay seated, lean on your partner, enjoy your dinner. I have had couples take their dinner in a different location just for 15 minutes to enjoy themselves and a moment of silence to enjoy their dinner while it is warm. You can slip back in before speeches and no one will even know.
I don’t even need to say this but it will all fly by, savor savor savor.
Completely pivot your plans. If a large ceremony and dinner does not excite you and your fiance, do something else. I have had brides and grooms get married the night before with their families and celebrate that way, enjoying dinner and dancing the next.
Last but not least, call me, let me help you get going in the right direction; I will always always encourage you to create a wedding day that is calm, meaningful and infused with special moments.
